Third page – Session at July 23, 2008
Hoo boy. The first paragraph is wrong. Yes, I reported feeling anticipatory grief about my grandparents’ deaths (they’re very old, it’s just not that far off). No, it’s not about “family conflict that she believes will follow.” It was about family conflict that WILL follow (it’s not just a matter of my belief) regarding my grandparents’ estate, the division of assets and so on. I wasn’t anticipating that my family would just start fighting once my grandparents passed, I anticipated that they would fight over money. Big difference.
The qualifier “she believes” really strikes at the heart of this whole fiasco. Right from the start, the therapist was doubting me. And on what basis? It was the first session – she knew nothing about me or my family. Maybe my family has already begun to fight over inheritances, maybe my family has a long ugly history of doing so. Inheritance disputes are extremely common (ask any estate lawyer), maybe mine is one of those families. Why doubt my intepretation of the likely behaviour of people I know very well and she knows not at all?
Oh right – because she’s a Gestalt therapist and they make shit up.
In the next paragraph, she wrote “harassment”, as if there was some question about whether or not it was actual harassment. Again, it was the first session, the therapist knew nothing whatsoever about the harassment. Again, workplace harassment is extremely common. Why doubt my interpretation of an experience that I actually had and that she knows nothing about? The only thing I told her that my ex-boss accused me of having mental health problems, which is in itself harassment. It’s textbook harassment.
The part about “social workers have been problematic for her” isn’t quite accurate. I wouldn’t have used that language but I did tell her that I have had negative experiences with social workers, but not as a client. It was in a professional context. I worked for a government agency that funded many community-based organizations which happened to be led by social workers. These agencies habitually filed late, inaccurate and incomprehensible financial reports, and it was my job to address it. These social workers had appalling attitudes about being expected to account for their use of taxpayers’ money. They fought me every step of the way. THAT is the problem that I had with them.
Fourth page – Session at July 30, 2008
This one isn’t so bad. There aren’t really any significant inaccuracies here, it’s more about the omissions. Obviously in an hour a lot more ground was covered than is shown in these notes.
I don’t understand her liberal use of quotation marks because some of that language I would never use. E.g. I would never say that my parents did not “validate” my thoughts or feelings. I would say my parents never gave a shit about my thoughts or feelings because they were too caught up in their own dramas. So either quote what I actually said or lay off the quotation marks.